tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post2905432587534558916..comments2023-10-17T01:35:44.483-06:00Comments on Tall Oaks From Little Acorns Grow: Kristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09988190251156621315noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-33259891070650582352007-05-30T20:25:00.000-06:002007-05-30T20:25:00.000-06:00I'm always the type to say, "if it's meant to happ...I'm always the type to say, "if it's meant to happen..it'll happen". It's so true though.. When Ricky and I talked about James having a brother or sister we never really got excited about the idea. It was like..a given. That if you have one..try to have another. If possible. And now that Natalie's here it does feel complete now. She WAS missing from our family for a while..okay, not a long while since they're so close in age. But still. You catch my drift. So, I understand how you feel. Just keep hanging onto those baby things left over from Logan and see what happens. Your husband may come around and start to feel like how you do. Maybe when you guys have a bigger place he'll feel more secure about the idea more. Cause Ricky is the same way with thinking about things- it always boils down to finances. Granted, that is wise. But my whole thinking was, "hey if we don't do this now I'll change my mind once I think about how painful labor was...so let's get to procreating"..LMAO It'll all work out. Things always find a way to work out. Good luck!!!!Dawn @ Bent, not brokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01686743698444719038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-44859716374568887422007-05-30T15:15:00.000-06:002007-05-30T15:15:00.000-06:00I've been wanting to comment on this for days...bu...I've been wanting to comment on this for days...but I can't figure out what on earth to say in response. It's a HUGE decision to make, especially considering how much fun you had the last time you were pregnant. I can understand your hesitation to even consider the possibility. But I can understand your desire for another as well. I guess just don't let anybody else's experiences, opinions, or advice sway you one way or another. Talk things over with your hubby, repeatedly if necessary, until together you can decide what's right for your family. I wish I (or anyone) could make the tough decision for you, but life doesn't really work that way. Maybe an accident will make the decision for you. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-60981874500067531302007-05-30T06:29:00.000-06:002007-05-30T06:29:00.000-06:00Oh, I feel this post in my bones.I keep telling my...Oh, I feel this post in my bones.<BR/><BR/>I keep telling myself that if you wait until you have 'enough money,' you'll be waiting forever. And in the moments when I seriously doubt that I could be a mother of two, I realize that I surprised myself with what I could handle with one, I have to count on surprising myself with two children.<BR/>I agree with Reesh, I'm sure Bill is thinking about this a lot, too. Which may be why he gave such a quick response. He just hasn't sorted through all his feelings yet, so when he's ready to talk it about he will.<BR/>As for prepping yourself for a potential second pregnancy, it sounds like all the things you need to do anyways. Also? I love how you've become such a part of your MOMs club. Isn't it wonderful to feel that kind of support? From other mothers?Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08172318473717634353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-81533288803295986842007-05-29T20:26:00.000-06:002007-05-29T20:26:00.000-06:00I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Everything every...I'm so glad I'm not the only one! Everything everyone has said has rung so true to me! I'm super scared to have a second, since I know what it's like to have 1! But I'm so excited for you, and don't think you should EVER doubt your instincts. I don't know what your religious beliefs are these days (polygamy? what?) but I think we get those types of feelings for a reason. I truly believe that's because someone is waiting for you. Okay, reading that makes it sound really cheesy, but oh well, I'm leaving it. And honestly, I think it makes you a great mother to have all those questions and to be prepared and worried and everything else. Some people don't take that stuff into consideration and I think it ends up having negative effects on the children. Wow, I think I've been away from adults too long, I just keep writing...anyway, what I mean is I think you're a great mother, and would be a great mother to another child.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01173015494026655038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-13490511427029556522007-05-29T18:13:00.000-06:002007-05-29T18:13:00.000-06:00I think sometimes... but no. Tate will be an only ...I think sometimes... but no. Tate will be an only child until much later when we decide to adopt. Their are great things to be said for having more kids... but we just know what we want.Jake Silverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16682166162555506530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-10115236586473377072007-05-28T21:43:00.000-06:002007-05-28T21:43:00.000-06:00I completely understand your feelings...it is a bi...I completely understand your feelings...it is a big and somewhat scary decision. For us, it's a bit exciting because we didn't have that excitement of planning, since our first was a huge surprise. So this time around it's really exciting...and we're not even trying til December! But I'm doing prep work as well...going to the dr., trying to figure out what's going on with my body...I've talked w/ my OB etc. And while this is all very exciting, when Hailey's being extra awnry or I'm extra tired and having trouble keeping up with everything, I think to myself "oh my gosh, could I REALLY handle another one??" And I feel like the few people we have told may be thinking the same thing. But I think about the little baby, and how much we already love it, and how I really feel like there's this place for it already in our family, just waiting for it to get here...exactly like you described...I just get all choked up. I can't wait to go through the whole wonderful emotional experience I missed out on the first time, and we can't wait to welcome a new little member of the family...but at the same time I'm scared to pieces. So...I understand where you're coming from.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02003721925458149286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-50608877968586813772007-05-28T18:50:00.000-06:002007-05-28T18:50:00.000-06:00It's so nice to hear someone else say it's "scary"...It's so nice to hear someone else say it's "scary". When we decided to get pregnant the 1st time it was an easy decision (more or less). We've been talking about trying for # 2 for a few months now (and I could possibly be pregnant now.. we'll see in a few weeks) and it has SCARED me! For all the reasons you mentioned and others... it's amazing how much more thought has gone into doing it again.<BR/><BR/>But I too hear that clock ticking.. some days it's all I seem to hear!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-84380130408435215432007-05-28T17:45:00.000-06:002007-05-28T17:45:00.000-06:00It's scary how alike we are.We're going through th...It's scary how alike we are.<BR/><BR/>We're going through this again now, too. Should we, shouldn't we... Mostly it's all in my head. I loved being pregnant, I loved giving birth - for some reason it's the "getting" pregnant again that makes me nervous. Silly, I know. <BR/><BR/>And this time around, I feel no different than I was when we were planning Kira. I have a big resounding, "Am I really ready?" in my head that just won't go away. I feel many of the same emotions you're feeling too: whether or not I could handle it, if I'm ready to go back to the non sleeping, getting up every couple hours, the first few grueling months of teething. <BR/><BR/>It's tough... but I agree with Reesh; I think Bill will come around in his own time - sooner if you can get him to talk about what's really bothering him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-59935247394300684712007-05-28T17:24:00.000-06:002007-05-28T17:24:00.000-06:00I thank my lucky stars that we accidently got preg...I thank my lucky stars that we accidently got pregnant again. I know we would have been the same way you are now, weighing out the pros and the cons of having another baby. I know that doesn't really help much, except to say that I think it's probably perfectly normal. I bet your hubby is thinking about it right now. Sometimes it takes men a little longer than women to decide these things. SO keep talking about it and I bet he'll come around in his own time.Reeshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01133529766424844875noreply@blogger.com