tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post4085248248624981641..comments2023-10-17T01:35:44.483-06:00Comments on Tall Oaks From Little Acorns Grow: I don't want toKristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09988190251156621315noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-33956044739054782752009-04-10T12:51:00.000-06:002009-04-10T12:51:00.000-06:00How can that be? Why not your counselor?How can that be? Why not your counselor?Erinesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03049812397540278977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-90591289295932782502009-04-07T17:49:00.000-06:002009-04-07T17:49:00.000-06:00She referred to herself as "Mommy" in the comversa...She referred to herself as "Mommy" in the comversation - "Oh, Mommy was confused" as she was sitting right next to Logan while they played poker.<BR/><BR/>Major panic attack today because the session has been scheduled next Thursday afternoon - with a COUNSELOR OF THEIR CHOOSING WHOM WE'VE NEVER MET.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09988190251156621315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-1434520110904676322009-04-07T16:43:00.000-06:002009-04-07T16:43:00.000-06:00I forgot that she told him to call her mommy. Was...I forgot that she told him to call her mommy. Was it like "come to mommy, whoops I mean Grandma?" Or was it a "call me mommy sweetheart" Not that any is better I just don't remember. This sucks, you are supposed to be getting ready for easter, not having to deal with this shiz...Erinesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03049812397540278977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-24453320966357022562009-04-07T12:19:00.000-06:002009-04-07T12:19:00.000-06:00Exactly. She won't change. You have the proof of...Exactly. She won't change. You have the proof of how much better your marriage is now, and I'm sure Bill sees it too. Shawn's parents have been out of our lives for 2 years this June, and it has been the most blissful 2 years of our marriage, and he saw that, and it was all the proof he needed. <BR/><BR/>I don't give a flying crap if it's his family, blah blah blah...This is MY family....and these are the people I will fight for. And if he's 1/2 a man, it will be the family he fights for too.Jenhttp://www.mommymusings.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-45621043659309833332009-04-07T10:48:00.000-06:002009-04-07T10:48:00.000-06:00If we even make it to counseling, I'm positive tha...If we even make it to counseling, I'm positive that Grandma L will screw herself. She doesn't have it in her to tell the truth and accept responsibility. It's going to be a complete mess of an hour. Seriously.<BR/><BR/>And I say "if we even make it" because I finally was able to convince Bill to schedule a time with our counselor to talk about this first before we go into the session with the IL's blind. We need to have a plan of action, know where we both stand and expectations of the outcome, etc. It looks like his procrastination is really kicking in because he hasn't scheduled the session, even after asking him if he wanted me to take care of it. He insisted that he would. And hasn't.<BR/><BR/>On top of that, the session on the 17th with the IL's isn't even scheduled yet. There's confusion about who's supposed to schedule what and the usual craptastic communication that happens with the IL's. I don't think anyone will be able to pull it together and make it happen in time to actually get a session in on the day they want. <BR/><BR/>Of all the times I've complained about Bill's procrastination and miscommunication, this is one time where I am not! I sincerely hope this plan falls through.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I'm way beyond continuing to visit and letting them do/say as they do or confronting them about it (as I did when Grandma L called herself "mommy" to Logan), especially since Bill just stands there and says nothing (like he did that night). And really? Even if Bill did say anything, they wouldn't change. It's who they are. It's time to move on with our lives. Permanently.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09988190251156621315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-46626446306993490202009-04-07T10:23:00.000-06:002009-04-07T10:23:00.000-06:00Eriness is a good friend of mine and we have simil...Eriness is a good friend of mine and we have similar situations as far as MILs are concerned. I have to agreed with her comment that you need to let MIL screw herself in front of Bill. Trust me it will happen and wouldn't it be even better if the counselor witnessed it.<BR/>I know your ILs are hell and I just wish there was a way for something so monumental (despite the fact that alot has happened and Bill hasn't seen fit to deal with it) to happen so that Bill would step up and put them in their rightful place, because until he does that they are going to continually abuse you! I feel for you, take deep breaths and try to get through it and be thankful they don't live in the same city right now cause then it would be even worse!Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17531223652076991523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-11935973207318442192009-04-07T09:41:00.000-06:002009-04-07T09:41:00.000-06:00I am so not liking this woman more and more. I wo...I am so not liking this woman more and more. I would feel the same as you if someone tried to use confidential and hurtful information and throw it in my face. Especially a MIL. <BR/><BR/>One thing I have thought of is keep your friends close and enemies closer. IS it possible to let her come over and just let her screw herself over as she WILL DO? You know what I mean, let everyone see her in action, and never be alone with her. <BR/><BR/>I once did that with my MIL and her bfriend and when my hubby heard what he said, he was appalled. We don't have a lot to do with them but I let them do it to themselves. <BR/><BR/>But perhaps you guys are past that. I am so sorry, this is so sad.Erinesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03049812397540278977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-71395645067659734542009-04-07T06:43:00.000-06:002009-04-07T06:43:00.000-06:00You're completely right - cut off is the absolute ...You're completely right - cut off is the absolute way to go. And I'm totally with you on the abuse thing (also speaking from experience). She is something your little guys do not need to be around. <BR/><BR/>Despite the fact they're coming into town, I hope you guys have a really great easter anyway and I hope she doesn't give Bill too much grief over anything (or if she does, he tells her to back off!).ericahttp://theapostles.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-92088187995089221952009-04-07T05:26:00.000-06:002009-04-07T05:26:00.000-06:00You stick to your guns Kristin. From reading your...You stick to your guns Kristin. From reading your blog over time it is so apparent that you have made every effort possible to have a tolerable relationship, but your MIL has thrown it all back in your face. If it makes you this unhappy you shouldn't have to deal with her and her malicious attitude. You have to do what you feel is best for yourself and your own family. I would do exactly the same in your position. <BR/><BR/>Bill knows how hard you've tried to make it work and I would hope that even if he is saddened by your decision, he respects it.Charliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00502158680502795555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-20491446944313432422009-04-06T22:19:00.000-06:002009-04-06T22:19:00.000-06:00I have been proving that I am the bigger person fo...I have been proving that I am the bigger person for years. YEARS. I have done EVERYTHING I possibly can; individual sessions, marriage counseling, Lexapro, and ignoring comments/actions just makes it worse.<BR/><BR/>Bill can have whatever relationship he wants with them, but their toxicity is not going to be a part of our family. He doesn't have to cut her off, but I will.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09988190251156621315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-14109516547459338352009-04-06T21:43:00.000-06:002009-04-06T21:43:00.000-06:00Maybe you should try to prove you are the bigger p...Maybe you should try to prove you are the bigger person and go into the counseling session with an open mind and at least give what you wanted months ago a crack to see how things work with the counselor. That is Bill's Mom and he has made it clear that he wants a relationship with his mother and you need to respect that irregardless of how difficult that may be to accept. If you don't at least try your next post could quite possibly be about Bill lying again about his contact with his family!<BR/>I'm not in your situation, but my husband would be devastated if I took all his family's rude and inappropriate comments and told him he had to disown them. I do the best I can with the situation because I love my husband. It gives me anxiety to deal with them, but I do it because I love him!Aliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17531223652076991523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19665812.post-26060533020855683062009-04-06T21:06:00.000-06:002009-04-06T21:06:00.000-06:00Oh wow, I feel for you. I know that this situatio...Oh wow, I feel for you. I know that this situation with them is just so crazy. I can not possibly understand how people can act that way.<BR/><BR/>I hope that everything goes well, and that this is a meaningful reach out on her part. (but I am with you, and doubt it because of the past)<BR/><BR/>Good luck!Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08417143480544776503noreply@blogger.com