It's a deal
When Logan was just a few months old, I felt like a prisoner in my own home. We had just moved into our new house & been there less than a year. I didn't know any other moms in the neighborhood, then with Bill's work schedule, I felt like a single parent on top of it all. I remember one afternoon Bill came home from work mentioning that he had stopped by the store on the way. I burst into tears because I had been left out of buying screws. Yeah. I cried over screws.
We moved to our "new" town to be closer to Bill's family (yeah, that's working out really great...) & to live in a smaller, friendlier community. Right away, Bill had plans to go to a concert with Uncle J. I was livid that once again, I was left at home all alone. Really, I was angry because he was going out but I had nowhere to go to. I couldn't get away even if I wanted to. That was the night where Bill said, "You need to make some friends" (which really pissed me off). That was the night I looked into joining MOMS Club.
Since joining The Club, Logan & I are always doing something. Baby showers, playgroups, meetings, walking groups, MOMS Night Out, the list goes on. It got to the point where the roles were reversed. Now, Bill was at home with nobody to hang out with.
Soon, he started making friends with some of the guys that he works with. Now they make plans for Dudes Night Out. This is the time where Bill goes to movies that I would never in a million years watch (like Grindhouse) or do "guy stuff". Their standard Dudes Night Out is going to Geeks Who Drink.
Now, we feel like there's a great balance without any resentment. I go to MOMS Night Out, have a beer or two & talk about Mom stuff with a bunch of friends; Bill goes to Dudes Night Out, has a few beers (& shots on top of that) & answers trivia questions (his absolute favorite) with The Guys.
It's an awesome "deal" that we've made with each other & I'm glad this is one part of life that we have balanced. Plus, it's fun!